Tera’s Story

What does being a birth mom mean to me? Sounds like such a simple question, yet has such a complex and meaningful answer. It is so near and dear to my heart and such an important part of who I am, that it is hard to thoroughly explain what it means to me. To start let me simply say that it is an honor and I am so proud of how I have handled a difficult situation of being single and pregnant. I am the lucky birth mom to James, the most adorable, handsome, kind hearted, independent, smart, loving and best little brother (I can go on and on about him). He was born July 31, 2007, and I placed him three days later into his loving family. I am proud to say that I am his birth mom because I know that I made the right decision for the most precious person in the world and I know that he will grow up knowing exactly how much I love him and he was truly placed out of love.

Having the opportunity to be a birth mom has affected my life in so many ways. Through the process of discovering I was pregnant, deciding whether I should keep or place, finding a family, giving birth, experiencing placement and just being single and pregnant; I have discovered that I am much stronger than I ever thought I could be, and that I can do hard things. I have nothing but positive experiences with adoption. I loved being pregnant, I loved my case worker, I love the amazing family I chose for my precious boy, and the continuing relationship that I have with them. Do not get me wrong; it was the most difficult thing I have ever gone through, and hopefully ever will have to experience. I had many sleepless nights, tearful and sobbing moments and sometimes days, unimaginable heartache, and have never felt so alone in my life. But through it all, I have become a better person, and through it all I have decided to become an adoption case worker myself and am currently getting my Masters in order to make that happen.

I have been blessed to be able to participate in promoting adoption locally and participating in adoption conferences as well. By participating in these things, it is confirmed that I made the best decision and that I should be proud of being a birth mom. Although some may not understand the decision I made, or even begin to comprehend the things that I have gone through, it has provided opportunities for me to educate others about the benefits of adoption and everyone involved.

Overall, these are some of things that I love about being a birth mom: having an open adoption, being able to see James when it allows (about 2 – 3 times a year), getting to know his entire family (and discovering that James’ mom and I have a lot in common), receiving picture-texts of James on his super adorable days, being able to take credit for him, although I am not the one raising him and teaching him the important lessons and qualities that will help him become the amazing young man I know he will become. Being a birth mom has changed my life, I have learned so many things about myself, and have met so many amazing people. I am proud to have the title of a birth mom, and carry that with honor.

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